CuriousGeorge: Do men and women have the same sexual fantasies? ANSWER

Charm_1: I find foreplay more pleasurable than the actual sex. I believe the condom prevents me from becoming properly stimulated. Is there anything I can do? ANSWER

MaritalAtrophy: My partner of 19 years has become less and less interested in lovemaking over the last two years. Instead, she likes to have infrequent sex — perhaps three to four times a month — with little romance and foreplay. She doesn't even kiss me anymore! My partner has become fixated on not having big or multiple orgasms as she says that her tummy hurts when this happens. I am an incurable romantic with an appetite for love and sex. I like to take time to enjoy each other. In an ideal world, I would have sex between five and ten times a week. The current situation is driving a wedge between us, but she doesn't recognize it as a problem. What should I do? How can I interest her? ANSWER

ejmoment: The guys in the porno movies seem to be able to last forever, but I last about one minute. Why? Is there anything — exercises, secrets — I can do to last longer? I want to do a better job pleasing my woman! Help! ANSWER

Flighty_Aphrodite: Every time I get involved with someone, things go great but then all of a sudden I lose interest. I start feeling interested in other men, or start focusing on the defects in the one I've got. This usually happens after about three to six months in a relationship. I know the honeymoon phase ends in all relationships, but I just can't seem to get past that point. What's wrong with me? ANSWER

Unrequited: My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. I recently told him that I was falling in love. He replied that he loved me, but not in the same way as I love him. He also told me that he wasn't sure what he wanted or exactly how he felt about me. He's not sure whether he should be waiting for someone to come along who gives him the "spark" that he felt in a past relationship or whether he should forget about the "spark" thing and work on the relationship he's in. He didn't directly say that I didn't give him this electricity, but I suppose it's obvious.

Should I just end the relationship now and try to get over my pain? Should I see if he can figure out what he wants in the next few months? Is he just with me to pass the time until he meets someone else, or do you think that he's just afraid to get hurt and taking some time to get to know me better? He's been burned in the past and says he's never going to get married or live with another woman. My boyfriend's 25 years old and comes from the East coast. I'm 26. Perhaps I'm looking for more than a 25-year-old male can give. Whatever happened to companionship and working to make relationships succeed?! ANSWER

Bob Berkowitz is the resident men's and sex expert for the ABC TV daytime show The View with Barbara Walters. He was the host of Real Personal, network TV's highly acclaimed, nightly interactive talk show for four years. Bob has also served as the men's correspondent on NBC's Today show where he reported on men's behavior and issues in modern society. Besides the two books he has written on sexuality, he writes a monthly column on women's sexuality for Women's Forum, published by Penthouse Magazine. His honors and awards include an award from the American Board of Sexology, the Freedom Foundation Medal of Honor, and an Overseas Press Club Award.

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