Question 4

Tripod: How would you handle a situation where you and your partner are very ready for sex, but realize that you don't have any contraceptives? Do you take a chance?
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Lydia
Female Escort

Well I say, "Who's going to the store?" If it was just a genuine thing where we haven't initiated it and he's not pushed it, and I guess the only time I've been in this situation is where I've been fumbling about for them, and actually had the guy run down to the grocery store! In the middle of the night.[laughs]

John Troyer
Creator of the Safer Sex Page

No, I certainly would not. The thing is, there are so many other things you can do, so many other ways you can have sex that don't involve penetration, that don't involve penis-and-vagina sex. I think our culture is very focused on the act of intercourse itself, and it doesn't have to be. You've got a whole body there.

Susan Yates
Gynecologist

I would definitely not advise it. The risks, not only of pregnancy, but of sexually transmitted diseases with one exposure are very real. If you're not ready to make a choice to protect yourself, you're not ready for sex.

Bob
Straight Male

Probably.

Kyoko Okamura
Harvard Peer Counselor

No, I will not take a chance by having intercourse. I probably will engage in mutual masturbation -- being very careful where the fluids are, but fun without having to go into full-blown sex.

Michael Franz, Gay Male
Editor, Gaysource

I'm in a long term relationship in the moment. But in the past I would not ever take a chance. I never have taken the chance. I don't feel that people should risk that. I mean, one chance is all it takes for AIDS or pregnancy or whatever, regardless of what type of relationship or partnership you're in. I think it's too important to risk your life over a moment of pleasure. It's so easy to run down to the deli or the pharmacy and get something to take care of it. And if the person can't wait, then they're not important enough to share your body with.

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LydiaFemale Escort

John TroyerCreator of the Safer Sex Page

Susan YatesGynecologist

BobStraight Male