Question 6

Tripod: Is it possible to incorporate contraception into sexual role playing without losing the excitement?
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Lydia
Female Escort

Oh, definitely. Definitely. You just have to be resourceful and have an imagination. You can have so much fun with contraception, with latex and condoms. It's very easy. You have to know how to use them. You know, experiment.

John Troyer
Creator of the Safer Sex Page

I think that's a great idea. I walk down the street in San Francisco, and there are billboards trying to eroticize safer sex. Advertising only goes so far. A lot of it comes from your peer group, the attitudes you had growing up. Different role playing is great. The World Wide Web is great, because it lets people see other people dealing with the situation.

Susan Yates
Gynecologist

Absolutely, and people do it all the time. The idea of women placing condoms on men. The idea of men putting contraceptive methods like diaphragms, or cream, or foam into the vagina. That can all be treated in a very erotic and pleasant way. It doesn't have to be viewed as a chore that has to be done out of sight. I think the more that both partners are involved in the contraceptive choice, the more positive it tends to be.

Bob
Straight Male

I think so. It's definitely possible. I mean, quite often you do. And I have before. It's not that much worse, but it is significantly not as fun as not using it.

Kyoko Okamura
Harvard Peer Counselor

Definitely, definitely. You could learn techniques, you could make it fun by having different types of condoms. "Let's try this one this time." I guess what bothers people about putting on a condom is that it adds a disjointed segment to your sexual pleasure. All of a sudden, there's a boom, "Hold everything!" But it doesn't have to be that way, if you accept it as a part of the sexual pleasure that will come.

Michael Franz, Gay Male
Editor, Gaysource

Yeah, I don't see why not. I mean, I've never had any problem with it. I often hear that people complain that contraception gets in the way, is too much of a hassle, too much of a bother-- I've never had any problem with it. I think if you just simply take the attitude that it's part of it and that's it, then it doesn't get in the way. It just becomes a part of the sexual act. And it doesn't have to get in the way of role playing.

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LydiaFemale Escort

John TroyerCreator of the Safer Sex Page

Susan YatesGynecologist

BobStraight Male