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* "What's Up, "DOC"*
Hellooo Out there!
I want to do something a little different with our newsletter , I would like to be adding in writings from our own Pod members ! It is in this way I hope to give you all a variety of interesting topics that will leave you wanting more. Please feel free to email me for guidelines in your email put RE submissions in the subject line. This is your pod feel free to get involved. Ideas and suggestions are always welcome!
Below is a story I printed out early on in this pods conception. I hope you do not mind if I take it out blow off the dust and place it before your eyes again. As a child I loved stories. Fairy Tales especially...Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, The Princess Bride. . . . I have always been a sucker for a good romance. Passionate, mysterious magical, poetry, music, candles. . . .
In books, I loved the way a romance would start between two people unexpectedly, with the thrill of discovery, eyes meeting across a crowded room! and a magical kiss. . . And then the inevitable something would happen and through some small twist of fate the lovers would be separated. There would be a misunderstanding and they would suffer terribly being apart. But never for to long or to painfully before they were joyously reunited. Such books ended with another kiss and the two lived, "happily ever after' riding off into a sunset on a beautiful white horse. Ah. . . . Love! or so I thought.
I think a part of me expected life to be like that. Like a Cinderella story. . . It was not until many years later that I began to wonder what kind of relationship the Prince and Cinderella had, had after 8 or 10 years of marriage?!! Or what the story would have been like if Cinderella had met a beautiful Princess and fallen in love?! And what if the prince hadn't wanted to get married at all because he was gay and didn't know how to tell his father the king. How did he explain that to Cinderella the next day? Maybe he kept Cinderella's shoe because he liked beige pumps?! All those things that happen in real life because people can come in such a variety of choices and experiences.
As I get older I realize that I see love and romance differently. I am starting to believe that love takes your whole life to learn. That the love that burned me up so much it almost hurt at 13, is only a fraction of the depth of the feeling that now fills me at 31. I have learned that love is not always a burning passion that ends in a soul searing kiss. Love is also found in the pain of loss, betrayal, and heartache. Love is forgiveness and patience and understanding. Love can be such a puzzle. Unfortunately I do not always have the picture on the front of the box to follow, as I try to put all the pieces together. Does everyone ever feel like that?
Daily I ask myself, am I doing all I can to be a good partner and lover?! Are any sunsets going unnoticed in my ordinary conventional world? Do I know the meaning of love yet? What if we argue? Can we be angry with each other? If we behave badly or speak to each other in a tone that was less then friendly, what does that mean? Do we love each other any less as the days go by. Sometimes I do not have the answers to all my questions. Will I one day divide up the silverware or follow her eyes as they watch someone else across a crowded room .
So what of the story about Cinderella and her beautiful princes? It would help me to see that story continue on past riding off into the sunset. It would be nice to watch a relationship from the middle not always from it's starting point. I wonder if Cinderella found out one day that the princess left her wet towels on the floor or that the passion they felt in the beginning only grew with time ? What if they held another ball at the palace and the princess danced a little too closely with another someone from a neighboring kingdom. I would like to hear the conversation that they had that night in a fairy tale.
I would love it if you would send me a story of your relationship. Stories like that would help all of us learn together. You know, stories of how you handled the things we all find ourselves coming up against. Things like anger, jealously, fear, frustration, passion, communication. All the skills and emotions that we learn from our childhood. Places where we step and have no answers, let�s write some lesbian fairy tales for that!!!!!!!
P.S. Also would anyone like to help me out with our pod chat? Running it scheduling it and thinking of topics. Also I was looking for two or three people to start a singles group and web page. I know I had a few volunteers at one time, any interest now???!!!
Have a great month everyone!
della_3 LLP Poderator "Unmitigated"
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